I followed every piece of advice they gave me. 🔹 “Push through it.” 🔹 “Be consistent.” 🔹 “Don’t let her think she can get away with it.” The more I did what I was told - the worse it got. She missed 100+ days in a single school year. And I was doing everything right. That’s when I realised the problem wasn’t my daughter. It wasn’t me. It was the advice. School refusal doesn’t get worse because you’re not trying hard enough. It gets worse because the nervous system doesn’t respond to pressure. It responds to safety. When I stopped pushing and started working with her nervous system instead of against it - everything changed. She’s now in her second year of her first-choice university. If you’re in the thick of it right now - the School Refusal Recovery Toolkit is the step-by-step guide I wish I’d had. Link in bio. - Jules (University mental health trained Mum - who’s lived it). #schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #teenanxiety #kidsanxiety