For two years I believed them. Every meeting, every strategy, every demand for more structure - and somehow I walked away carrying more shame than answers. The more we pushed, the worse it got. Not because I wasn’t trying hard enough. Because we were working with the wrong framework entirely. Her nervous system wasn’t being difficult. It was doing exactly what nervous systems do under pressure. Surviving. The day I stopped trying to meet the school’s expectations and started meeting hers - everything shifted. She missed over 100 days. She’s now in her second year of her first choice university. If you’re still being told you’re the problem - you’re not. Save this and come back to it on the hard days. 🔗 The toolkit is in my bio. - Jules ♥️ (University mental health trained and mum who’s lived it) #schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #schoolsupport #teenmentalhealth