SAVE THIS POST! Let’s be real… there is no quick fix, & this is very much a journey I’m still on but here are the tools that have helped me to move more towards a more secure attachment: ❤️‍🩹 RECOGNISING PATTERNS: This will give you a much better understanding of yourself & your behaviour, look at everything from your parents relationship, your relationships with your parents, friends & romantic relationships over the years. You can do this either by journaling or with a therapist. ❤️‍🩹 SELF-SOOTHING / INNER CHILD WORK: Sometimes simply questioning the anxious thoughts when we feel triggered isn’t enough to soothe the anxiety. So to stop the thoughts spiralling, try to do an activity that gets you out of your head & into your body… this could be drawing, reading, dancing, working out. Anything that helps to clear your mind & bring you back into the present moment. For me p0le fitness does exactly that, it soothes my anxiety within a few mins. If you’re unsure what to try then ...