we try to move on, get over it, meet someone new, find some respite. thrill the pain away. drugs, food, alcohol, sex, shopping, exercise. all a distraction. an avoidance. a form of self soothing from a cold, hard truth - we went through something that hurt. and not only did it hurt, real bad, but it reminded us of some deeply painful times that we experienced many years before this hurt. that’s a double hurt. the hurt is a shock to the nervous system. the shock to the nervous system dysregulates the nervous system. it takes us out of ventral vagal state of calm, and pushes us into states of danger for the body. for a non-resilient nervous system, sometimes it’s hard to come back. the energy has no where to go. our physical body doesn’t come back to centre even if consciously we feel “OK” the energy of the shock and the hurt and the pain doesn’t move through the body. often we suppress and we don’t scream and shake and cry. The energy gets lodged somewhere, moving downward, into our ...