If you’re dealing with a narcissist, the goal isn’t to win the argument. You need to protect yourself without giving the narcissist any opportunity to attack you. Here are 7 practical ways to expose a narcissist (without it backfiring): 1. Document what happened with you. Track the date/time and what was said and done. Save texts/emails/voicemails if possible. Keep the contact of anyone who may have witnessed what happened. Most importantly document the impact. 2. Describe their behaviour not their personality when you are asking for help. Say things like, “He threatened X person or lied about Y situation.” People decide to act on facts. So give them facts, not diagnoses like Narcissist or Psychopath. Avoid personality traits like liar or manipulator are open to people’s perception and a narcissist manages those very well. 3. When working with a narcissist create a paper trail. After a meeting, send an email confirming what was discussed. Say things like “If I misunderstood, please ...