Every professional told us the goal was the gate. Get her there. Keep her there. Push through. We tried. And the more we pushed, the worse it got. Because we were solving the wrong problem. Her nervous system didn’t need pressure. It needed safety. That’s not a philosophy. That’s science. And nobody told us until we were years in. Everything I wish I’d known is at juleswaller.com - Jules (University trained in mental health and mum who’s lived it). #schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #schoolsucks #teenanxiety #childrensmentalhealthmatters