For a long time I measured everything in days attended. It felt like the only number that mattered. The school made sure of that. But the days attended number kept getting worse - no matter what we did. And it took me an embarrassingly long time to realise I was measuring the wrong thing entirely. When we stopped chasing attendance and started paying attention to her nervous system - everything shifted. Not overnight. But it shifted in a direction it had never shifted before. She missed over 100 days of school in a single year. She’s now in her second year of her first choice university. The Toolkit is built around every shift that got us there. 🍒 Link in bio. - Jules ♥️ (University mental health trained and mum who’s lived it). #schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #schoolstress #kidsanxiety #teenanxiety