If your child is struggling with school refusal and isn’t at school today - I want you to know something. I’ve sat in that silence too. The house that should be empty by 8:30 still full. The phone you’re dreading picking up. The mix of guilt and relief and exhaustion that nobody warned you about. I spent years doing everything I was told. Following every piece of professional advice. Pushing harder when things got hard. And the harder I pushed, the worse it got. What I didn’t understand then - and what nobody told me - is that what my daughter was experiencing wasn’t a behaviour problem. It wasn’t defiance. It wasn’t manipulation. Her nervous system was in alarm. And you cannot push, reward, or consequence an alarm into switching off. You need a completely different plan. After years of chronic school refusal, my daughter successfully graduated with entry into her first choice university and first choice degree. Today she is happy and motivated. You can get here too ❤️...