Most parents are trying to change the behaviour. But the behaviour is the last thing that changes. When your child is in threat mode every morning, they’re not choosing to be difficult. Their nervous system has learned that school isn’t safe - and it’s doing exactly what it was designed to do. Protect them. The exhaustion you see isn’t laziness. The frozen legs aren’t manipulation. The meltdown at the gate isn’t about you. It’s a body that’s been on high alert for so long it doesn’t know how to switch off. Understanding that changed everything for us. Comment TOOLKIT and I’ll send you the link. My daughter went from 100+ missed days in one school year alone, to her first choice university degree. And you can get there too. - Jules ♥️ #schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #schoolpsychology #teenmentalhealth #childrensmentalhealth