People often ask me what makes relationships last. It isn't grand romantic gestures. It isn't finding the "perfect" partner. And it certainly isn't avoiding conflict. The strongest couples I know have something else in common. They keep investing in connection. They turn toward each other when one reaches out. They stay physically affectionate even when life gets busy. They make a point of noticing and appreciating each other. And they remain curious about who their partner is becoming. What I find fascinating is that each of these habits helps answer a basic human need. When we respond to a bid for connection, we're saying, "I see you." When we reach for a hug, hold hands, or sit close on the couch, we're saying, "You're safe with me." When we express appreciation, we're saying, "I don't take you for granted." When we stay curious, we're saying, "I still want to know you." Over time, those messages create trust, emotional safety, and intimacy. Most relationships don...