There’s a version of helping that quietly does the opposite. When she’s anxious about school, the instinct is to sit her down and ask her to explain it - so you can understand it, and fix it. But a body in alarm doesn’t have a reason ready. So she goes looking for one to hand you. And whatever she lands on starts to feel truer every time she says it out loud. You didn’t cause the fear. But the asking can accidentally give it a shape it didn’t have yet. The shift that changes mornings isn’t a better question about her thoughts - it’s turning toward her body instead. 🔹Where do you feel it ? 🔹Is it big or small right now ? 🔹Let’s settle that part first. You’re not brushing the worry aside. You’re meeting it where it actually started. Settle the body, and the worries stop needing an answer. 🍒Save this for the next hard morning - and send it to a parent caught in the same loop. - Jules #schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #gotoschool #teenanxiety #teenmentalhealth