You didn't get to choose your first caregivers. They chose your first wounds. The attachment style you learned at two is still running your relationships at forty. Anxious. Avoidant. Disorganized. These weren't choices. These were survival responses encoded before you had words. You're not stuck. You're using outdated software. Update it. Rewrite it. It's not too late. This is the part we don't talk about enough. The part where you realize your survival strategies have become your prison. The patterns that kept you safe then are keeping you trapped now. You're still responding to threats that don't exist anymore. Still protecting yourself from dangers that passed years ago. Your nervous system doesn't know the war is over. It's still scanning for enemy fire. Still sleeping with one eye open. Still ready to run, fight, or freeze at a moment's notice. And it's exhausting you. Draining your energy. Keeping you from the peace you think you should have earned by now. But here's what nobo...