I’ve been sharing reflections from my daily practice and studies in Buddhist philosophy and ethics. I’m far from perfect. I’m just sharing my lived experiences and insights from conversations with friends, meditation practitioners, and people I connect with along the way. ​Lately, I’ve been reflecting on how often triangulation and jealousy are used as subtle tools for self-validation... and how deeply cruel they actually are. ​Triangulation happens when a third person is brought into a relationship dynamic, either through flirting, unchecked boundaries, or blurred lines. When someone allows a third party to trigger their partner's jealousy—and especially when they laugh it off or minimize it—they aren't being "detached" or "harmless." They are planting seeds of doubt in someone else's mind to feed their own vanity. ​Using jealousy to feel wanted creates a toxic environment where trust cannot survive. It flips the blame onto the person feeling hurt, forcing them onto an emotional ro...