The advice that sounds right and still doesn’t work. I was told over and over - keep the routine tight, keep it predictable, and it’ll get easier. For a while I thought I was just executing it badly. I wasn’t. The routine had become another deadline her body was bracing against. Once I loosened the grip on “exactly the same, every day” and focused on making mornings feel safe instead of scheduled, things actually started to shift. She missed over 100 days of school in one school year year alone. She graduated with entry into her first-choice university. If routine and consistency haven’t fixed it for you either, it might not be about doing it more precisely. It might be time to loosen it. Save this if that’s where you’re stuck. With love, - Jules ❤️ #schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #schoolstress #teenmentalhealth #childrensmentalhealth