The advice everyone gives you first - and why it was never going to fix this. 🔸Take something away 🔸 Add a reward 🔸 Hold the line. That’s the standard playbook, and for a lot of parenting problems it genuinely works. It just isn’t built for a nervous system stuck in alarm. I tried it. It didn’t fail because I wasn’t consistent enough. It failed because the problem it was solving for wasn’t the problem we had. Once I understood that, I stopped reaching for consequences and started reaching for safety instead. That’s the shift that actually moved things. She missed over 100 days of school (in a single school year). She’s now at her first-choice university. If the “be firmer” advice hasn’t worked for you either - it’s not you. It was never going to reach the real issue. We got through. So can you. Save this for the next person who tells you to hold the line harder. - Jules ❤️ #schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #schoolstress #schoolsucks #teenmentalhealth