In the latest edition of #GoingThroughIt, a letter-writer has learned that her best friend's partner of ten years has been posting racist content online, and is conflicted on how to break the news to her. “I know firsthand how harmful it is to be a mixed kid with a white family member who is hateful toward immigrants,” she writes. “And as we’ve entered our 30s, Elsie has talked about wanting to be a parent.” “I’ve debated calling her up or emailing her screenshots of his posts. But I also know doing that might end our friendship entirely.” At the link in bio, Allison P. Davis (babymeatballs) explains why Nate's behavior is “terrifying, and should be handled as such” — then offers advice on what to do next. Illustration: liakantro