Someone gets close and you sabotage it. You pick fights. You find flaws. You disappear. Not because you don't want connection. Because connection feels like a cliff edge. Your nervous system learned closeness and loss were paired. So it launches the loss first to maintain control. You're not broken. You're protecting yourself. But the wall keeping you safe is also keeping you alone. #trauma #attachment #selfsabotage #traumarecovery #mentalhealth