At the hardest point in my daughter’s school refusal journey she missed over 100 days of school in a single year. I did everything the “experts” told me to do. 🔸Reward charts. 🔸Consequences. 🔸 “Just get her in the car.” 🔸 “She’ll grow out of it.” and so it goes on … I sat through appointment after appointment - week after week - year after year - nodding along, trying every strategy I was handed. None of it worked. Because none of it was actually solving the problem. Every single piece of advice assumed she was choosing not to go. That if I just found the right consequence, the right conversation, the right push - she’d get in the car. But her body wasn’t choosing anything. It was frozen. Fully dressed, standing at the top of the stairs, unable to move - before a single word was even said. It wasn’t until I stopped following the advice and started paying attention to what her body was actually doing that anything changed. ⛔️ It’s not school won’t. It’s school can...