I say this to people in my practice all the time: If you want to truly love and be loved, you have to be willing to get your heart broken. I know that sounds scary. I don’t mean that the person you love is necessarily going to leave you or betray you. I mean there are no guarantees when we love another human being. People disappoint us. Relationships change. And sometimes, through death or other kinds of loss, we lose people we would give anything to keep. Heartbreak, in one form or another, is part of loving. And so many of us spend our lives trying to protect ourselves from it without realizing what that protection is costing us. I understand why. Our hearts remember what hurt us. What we saw growing up, what we didn’t get, who left, who betrayed us, who we lost, and all the times love didn’t feel safe. But I don’t believe we’re here to keep our hearts intact. I believe love is one of the great classrooms of the soul, and so much becomes possible when we stop making the l...