This week on #GoingThroughIt, a letter-writer wonders if their strict adherence to a schedule is ruining their shot at finding love. “The spontaneous third drink at the bar — where I could maybe, finally meet someone — is off the table before it’s even *on* the table,” they write. Swipe through to read their letter, and read Allison P. Davis’s response at the link in bio. This story is a part of #BoundariesWeek, a series exploring all the ways we’re setting — and overstepping — our boundaries. Illustration by liakantro