My child couldn’t explain any of this while we were living it. She didn’t have the words – she just had the symptoms, and the shutdowns, and the “I’m not going” that I kept hearing as defiance. It was only later, once her body settled and she could finally talk about it, that I understood what those mornings had actually been: not a battle of wills, but a body in full alarm trying to protect her from a threat that wasn’t really there. If you’ve got a child like this right now: they’re not manipulating you. They’re drowning in something they can’t name. And the way out isn’t more pressure – it’s helping their body believe it’s safe, before you ask it to do anything hard. 
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