You can't play the victim to your own bad choices. If you're knowingly doing things that are to your own detriment, you can't turn around and play the victim when the negative consequences show up. But people do this all the time. They want a better relationship, a better body, a better life. But they're not taking care of themselves because they don't value themselves. Or they're using food, substances, distractions, sex, or other behaviors to escape emotions they don't know how to deal with. And eventually, those choices start showing up in your life. You can want a new partner all day long. You can want to feel better about yourself. You can want your life to change. But wanting something doesn't change anything. You have to change how you show up. Because your life is going to keep reflecting the choices you make until you make different ones. You can't keep choosing the behavior and then complain about the consequence. At some point, you have to take responsibility a...