Every pattern has a purpose. Even the ones you don't like. 🔁 This is something that's going to be so transformational for you to accept: the parts of your relationship history, the behaviors you're not proud of — they're there for a reason. There's a reason your love identity came to be. And it's not all bad. It's not all negative. You created this pattern as a mechanism of safety. As a barrier for yourself. You're simply recognizing now that it's no longer aligned with the partnership you actually want. Take overgiving, for example. It creates connection. It creates a sense of being needed — which fosters your sense of value. You became an over-nurturer because it met a need for you. There was a point in your life where you discovered: I can be valued. I can connect with people. By giving more than they gave me. By showing up more than they showed up for me. In that moment, it served a purpose. It fed a need. It filled a void. The desire to be needed creates security. Once yo...