One surefire way to make your life more difficult than it has to be is to have a child with the wrong person. A lot of people get lonely, so they accept a substitute. They settle for someone who gives them comfort, intimacy, and attention, even though they don't genuinely love, respect, or admire that person. Then a child comes out of it. Now you've got two conflicting adults with a child caught in the middle. Understand this: If you don't genuinely love the person, cherish them, respect them, and share a similar mission, vision, values, attitudes, and interests, your life can become exponentially more complicated than it needs to be. Having a child isn't just about whether you want to have a baby. It's about whether you want this person to be the co-parent of your child for the rest of your life. There's a huge difference between: "I want to have sex with this person because I'm lonely." And: "I would trust this person to help raise my child." Don't confuse intimacy with c...