You know what happens when you put someone on a pedestal? You turn yourself into a fan and them into a celebrity. And celebrities don't date their fans just because their fans bought all the merchandise. Look at this guy. He's asking a porn star for her number, and she's giving him the diplomatic equivalent of a restraining order. She's flattered by his attention, but that doesn't mean she wants his attention. And this is where people get it wrong. They confuse being desired with being desirable. They confuse being someone's favorite person with being someone they're attracted to. And they confuse getting someone's attention with having a genuine connection. When you put someone on a pedestal, you're basically handing them a crown and asking them to judge your worth. You've made them the prize before you've even figured out whether they're worth winning. You don't know their character. You don't know their values. You don't know whether they'd make a good partner. But they...