You don’t have to pretend something was good to find something valuable in what you learned from it. Life is going to challenge you. Sometimes those challenges will be predictable. Sometimes they’ll arrive completely out of nowhere. And sometimes, no matter how carefully you’ve planned, things simply won’t work out the way you hoped. But here’s something worth remembering: You don’t always get to choose what happens to you. You can still influence what you do with the experience. That doesn’t mean forcing yourself to be positive. It doesn’t mean pretending the setback didn’t hurt. And it certainly doesn’t mean every difficult experience happened because you needed to learn some grand lesson. Sometimes the most powerful shift in perspective is moving from: “Why did this happen to me?” To: “Given what’s happened, what can I do with what I know now?” That’s where resilience meets self-leadership. See the terrain clearly. Find your leverage. Take your next step. You got this...